Adult Volunteers, Debra Hadsall, Financial Education, Girls, Young Women, Teens, Pre-Teens, Vo, Graduation, High School, Uncategorized

Mentoring, Conversations and Relationships with Adult Volunteers

Life Skills and Mentoring for Groups of Girls and Young Women in Public Schools 



Success!!! My little book about group mentoring with girls and young women and led by volunteers is finally finished and published.  Please click above to learn more.

As I stand back and read it as a woman, wife, mother, sister, daughter, professional woman and someone actively involved in doing things that can make a positive impact on the lives of girls and women, I see what you will see.

Stepping back from being the author sharing about real world experiences that I and others had over a four year period gives me the luxury of really just reading the book like you would.

In addition to use by volunteers, I can see how home school parents/teachers could use some of the resources mentioned or provided. Those from Sean Covey are good for students and adults!

Grandparents and parents can gain a different perspective of what young people are encountering these days out in the world and at school; the good and the not-so-good. Community leaders who really want to do something transformational and not just a one-time activity which seems more charitable than it is life changing could use it.

Some of you may have perfect lives with perfect children, grandchildren, friends, and other family members. We didn’t and don’t. Our brilliant and independent son had what I call an adventurous youth. I tell people that behind the facade of this suburbanite mom is a woman who has learned a lot of street smarts along the way because of our son’s adventures. It all worked out, but it was work.

Over time I became the neighborhood coach for how to handle home-schooling (at the high school level) and gave support to parents who found their lives turned upside down by massive changes in their child’s behavior. Good kids with good parents. Both just needed a little information, care, and coaching.  Later in life these experiences gave me some confidence as a group of community volunteers started a group mentoring lunchtime activity in a public school for pre-teen and teen girls/young women.

When you are shopping for a gift for yourself and others, please consider making this little book your choice

4th of July Celebration, Creativity, Debra Hadsall, Sara Winters, Uncategorized, Young Women

Art and a Hill Country 4th of July Celebration




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Two years ago I was seeking refuge in an art gallery in Fredericksburg, Texas.  The whole 4th of July joy for me was being reduced by all the tourists who frequent the Berg on holidays and the downtown area was packed, even in the Texas heat. It all seemed a little overdone and commercial.  So I slipped into a beautiful little oasis at an art gallery.  The gallery describes its purpose to be: Graceful Discoveries. Finding something special that satisfies your senses, speaks to your soul, and fills your heart with joy.  My husband and I found that to be true There I met a local artist, Sara Winters.

If this story sounds familiar, it’s because I posted about it on the 4th in 2015.  Some things are worth repeating.

The change of pace and the feel of the gallery was noticeable.  We landed at the right place to reframe the celebration of our country’s independence.All this freedom we enjoy was better displayed for me in the artwork, including Sara’s little painting which is shown above (it’s since been sold).  I found this piece to be simple and nostalgic in a meaningful way.  More authentic, simple,  and colorful in a perfect way, than the  commercialism flash and noise usually associated with the 4th.

I think I love her painting even more because she is such an interesting person and she spent time with me showing some of her other pieces.  Sara stands out among the other artists to me because she is a young woman with small children and is self taught.  Her studio is not in town, but out in the country where barns have multiple uses.

To have art placed in the gallery where we met, the artist has to be really good at what she or he does.  So, my amateur art appreciation opinion of Sara’s work is validated by experts.

Happy 4th and I thank Sara for the afternoon that has led to us still being in touch off and on for the last two years.  Our visit even inspired me and some other women to go with a group of middle school students to the gallery.  It was an amazing experience for everyone.

I see the afternoon in the gallery with so much art about nature and people as the way we truly are in the United States in our normal day-to-day living.  The story of freedom, and all that we are offered were apparent to me that afternoon.   We have the freedom to pursue our dreams.   It doesn’t have to be all noise and splash to be enjoyable.  It can be found in a small painting and a conversation with someone who is new to us and may have abilities we don’t have, but can enjoy and appreciate.

Happy 4th of July.






4th of July Celebration, Creativity, Debra Hadsall, Sara Winters, Uncategorized, Young Women

Art and a Hill Country 4th of July Celebration



Having an author’s blog feels like a luxury.  My other blogs and websites are targeted for a specific purpose. This one is my go-to place when I experience something personal that touches me and is so special that I sense others might like to share the experience.

This post is celebrates our annual 4th of July holiday. It’s about how a quick stop to a local art gallery can remind us all about the beauty of our country, and the amazing talent of our artists and business owners.

My husband and I were escaping the summer heat (and the added holiday tourists blocking Main Street) in Fredericksburg, Texas. We stopped by Whistle Pik Galleries during the city-wide monthly Art Walk. The Fredericksburg area attracts a lot of artists and those who appreciate art. Whistle Pik’s tagline is: Graceful Discoveries. Finding something special that satisfies your senses, speaks to your soul, and fills your heart with joy.  We found that to be true.

Going to an art gallery is a great alternative to the normal 4th of July activities.  There is also an added bonus in Fredericksburg because the galleries offer complimentary sampling of wines from the local wineries along with amazing artwork.  Often the artists are in the galleries and we met one, Sara Winters, who spent time telling us about her paintings which are being showed in this lovely gallery. We learned about her huge painting titled Wimberley.  Please click here to view a photo of this interesting piece of art.

The Wimberley painting is 48″x60″.  For those of us who aren’t artists, it is hard to imagine painting something so intricate and large. The logistics of working with such a big surface are pretty interesting. Sara is an accomplished self-taught artist.  She is also one of the youngest artists I have met on our visits to galleries.

The painting is stunning and feels very Texas Hill County. Now it is also a part of Texas history. Wimberley is one of the small and very charming towns in the Hill Country which was literally swept away recently by the Blanco river. The water rose quickly creating a fierce flood that flowed with great speed and power without consideration for anything in its path.  Lives were lost, homes destroyed, and the beautiful trees which seem so rooted and grand in Sara’s painting, are now broken and damaged.

Sara’s stunning artwork is one reminder of what was.  The photos she showed us of how the trees look today are the reality of what remains.

This 4th of July, I celebrate artists, art galleries, and the Texas Hill Country.  I celebrate a painting which not only captures the unusual strength of old and strong trees, but serves for all times as a striking visual reminder of a beautiful spot in Wimberley, Texas,  as it looked before the river roared through.

Sara had a smaller painting titled The Fourth and Flowers which you may view by clicking here.  It seems appropriate to give you an opportunity to enjoy this too on the day we celebrate our freedom and independence!


Creativity, Debra Hadsall, Legalized Marijuana, Making Money, Uncategorized, Women and Money, Women in Commerce

My Monkey Mind- Women in Commerce and Shades of Nancy Botwin

This is reposted from my blog about women and money,  I find the creative community often appreciates my monkey mind postings more than  most of my regular readers.  Please enjoy.


My monkey mind postings relate to Buddha’s description of the human mind as being filled with drunken monkeys, jumping around, screeching, chattering, and carrying on endlessly. These postings come from my monkey mind.

Yesterday my monkey mind connected Nancy Botwin (a fictional character), ways to improve financial lives by making more money, and women in commerce in the legal pot industry in Colorado.  I am not posting about whether or not legalized marijuana is appropriate, only about where my monkey mind took me recently.

Colorado has legalized the growing and sale of recreational marijuana, with limitations.  I lived in Colorado for most of my adult life and have family and friends there.  Recently I was staying with my  adult son and he opened the freezer, took out a small bag of marijuana, and asked if I wanted some.  Then we laughed.  Pot has never been my deal or his. The bag has been there for six months.  The humorous part was he was having this conversation with his mother and all of a sudden that which was forbidden and usually hidden, was now OK (limited amounts of course) and out for all to see.

He and I have our mother and son bonding over cable TV shows like Sons of Anarchy, Breaking Bad, Nip Tuck, and my all-time favorite, Weeds.  If you don’t know, Weeds is the  fictional story of Nancy Botwin, a widow with two children and a big need for big income.  She is not a perfect person and her decision to deal weed is one of love, violence,  greed, corruption, survival, decisions, sex, and commerce.  It is also the story of a woman in an industry run by men and a mother’s concern for providing for her children.  Quite an interesting combination.

The last episodes show how over time she made the jump from being a criminal dealing drugs to a woman of commerce with a chain of very successful stores selling pot edibles.  How did this happen?  The story line put her in a world where weed had been legalized.  I loved the ending since it showed Nancy as the owner of a very large, very legal, and  very legitimate business.  My son didn’t share my enthusiasm.  I suspect he was looking for the crazy violence prone Nancy to rise again.  Instead it was a story of  closure and commerce .

This week I did a posting titled Three Ways to Improve Your Financial Life.  One of these ways to make more.  I am always fascinated by how we as women find ways to make more for ourselves and our families.  So, when CBS This Morning did a segment on women in Colorado who are in the  legalized marijuana industry, are making money, reaching out to each other, and getting a piece of the action, I thought of Nancy Botwin and the idea of making more money.

In the  CBS video, a woman is shown in a commercial  kitchen  preparing pot goodies.  She is not a Food Network star or a well-known chef, the way most women in kitchens come to us via our television.  I doubt that she is highly paid or wealthy…yet.  She is a woman doing commerce in the legalized pot industry in Colorado. I thought, finally a way for women who can cook and/or grow things and also run a business to make a real living. This is big business and one where women are already finding a way to connect with other women to define the industry and benefit financially from their efforts. The segment can be viewed at

I remember that after I viewed the final season of Weeds, I mentioned to my husband that maybe I should get into the pot business some day when it is legalized more widely.  He laughed and reminded me that most plants I care for die and that although I make amazing cookies, my long-term ability to whip up delicious pot treats doesn’t exist.  So I will just watch from the sideline as those pioneering Colorado women lead the way.

Until next time.

Debra Hadsall



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Kathy Murphy, Beauty and the Book


One of my earlier posts was about Kathy Murphy who has uniquely combined her passion for reading and financial literacy with beauty and women.  She is the creator of a very successful book club with about 2000+ members (mainly women, but now with a few men and children) called the Pulpwood Queens. There are currently over 500 chapters nationwide with thousands of members  and is now INTERNATIONAL with members and chapters in 15 foreign countries!

If you missed the story, please click at the end of this posting.  It is where I first learned about her, but recently I met her through an introduction from Phil Latham, a journalist who met Kathy while when he interviewed her for an article he was writing.  They have kept in touch over the years.

Meeting her was a joy and for one hour she, I, Phil and my friend Emily sat in Kathy’s new beauty shop and talked about books, publishing, authors (she has interviewed some best selling ones), reaching out to women, and her next annual gathering called Girlfriend Weekend.

We discovered we had attended the same Kansas college back in the day.  We also talked about our shared passion for valuing how women connect to learn, read, have fun, and support each other.  She does it through her book club, I do it through my Financial Freedom Party for Women.

This is the picture from that  spring day in East Texas. Kathy is second from the left, I am on the left and Phil Latham and Emily Mann Latham are on the right.  Behind us you can see the top of the book case which is full of fun books, including a few written by Fannie Flagg, a author of fun and inspiring books.  Yes, back there is also a place to have your hair done and everything you find in your local beauty shop.kathy&us

Beauty and the Book, what a great concept.  You can click here to see the website and learn more about the book club, Girlfriend Weekend, Kathy, and the book list.

This is the link to the article.Texas Co-op Power Magazine – Texas Stories: Bound & Determined – An Online Community for Members of Texas Electric Cooperatives.


Until next time.

Debra Hadsall






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Louie, Louie-Sounds and Smells of the Past


I flipped through the TV channels, kind of paying attention as I worked on the laptop.  I heard the song Louie, Louie being sung on a PBS show about songs from the past– aka, my youth.

I looked up for a moment and saw a group of seasoned band members singing this song which was really popular when I was in junior high school.  It was a time when young teens were quite naïve and innocent compared to those today.  Not a judgment, just a fact.  The music caught my attention and I tried to listen carefully to see if now, as an adult, I could figure out just what was being said.  At the time the song was catching everyone’s attention back in the day; part of the attraction was the rumor that the words were indecent.  If so, even all these years later I can’t understand them well enough to know. Actually, I was just enjoying the memories that the song brought back.  Interestingly enough, they were closely tied to the smells of the time.

I recall growing up in a suburb of Kansas City and going to basement rec rooms with wood-paneled walls and the lights turned down. Small groups of boy and girls gathered for music, talk, dancing, and just hanging out. There were no cigarettes, no alcohol, and no drugs.  The boys smelled of newly acquired colognes like Brut and English Leather. The girls had Prell shampooed hair which was dried (without a hair dryer) and ironed with a real iron until it hung straight as the paneling on those basement walls.  We cleaned our skin with Bonnie Bell products which had a distinctive smell and put on a little Bonnie Bell lip gloss to make us look glamorous.  Even the lip gloss had its own smell.  The fragrances of choice for us at the time were Chantilly, Tabu, and Emeraude.  I liked Emeraude.  Apparently the boys liked the girls with Tabu the best. The Tabu girls got asked to dance more often.  As an adult I can understand that the name and the smell of this fragrance probably should have been an indicator of the different personality types of the girls. Tabu smelled and sounded just so  exotic, grown-up and yes, taboo.tabu

After I finished the fragrance filled moments in my mind, I looked up from the laptop to see the audience of folks listening to the band members.  Reality set in as I looked at the sea of older adults, some bald heads, lots of white hair, and people who were no longer young teens. They were singing along to Louie Louie with their version of the words and having a good time.  They looked like they were having fun, but I was still lost in the moments from the past full of music and smells.  Maybe they were too.

Author, Debra Hadsall, Mentoring, Non-violence, Writing

What I Am Writing


Loved this old-fashioned glam take on writing.  Most of us write in blue jeans and t-shirts, or even in pjs (right?).  The smile must mean the project has come to fruition.

I’m writing a short presentation titled:

Lunch Bunch, from Kuwait to South Texas and from Violence to High School Graduation

Well, now the idea is out there, time to get focused and put it to pen and paper (or computer to the printer), then I will be smiling too.

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What I have been reading

Book of nature

I am lucky enough to be in a book club.  This pushes me to read a variety of books which I ordinarily would have just blown by, or not even discovered.  We all get into our habits.  Some of us read only novels, some only non-fiction and some people don’t read much at all.  Even the definition of what a book is can be interesting.  I discovered that a couple of my friends don’t think a book of short stories is a book at all.  Interesting to me, the truth for them.

These are some of my recent reads:

The Goldfinch by Donna Tartt– Very interesting and very long, but worth it.

How to Make Money by Blogging by Bob Lolitch –I bought the e-book edition for less than a dollar.  This is an extremely useful and instructional book.

Fires of Alexandria by Thomas K. Carpenter –Fun, easy to read and a nice historical novel.

Empty Mansions, The Mysterious Life of Hugette Clark and the Spending of an American Fortune by Bill Dedman and Paul Newell, Junior — A really interesting and fascinating story of the long life of a very wealthy woman who had her eccentricities, and probably a lot of reasons for them.  A true story and not a novel so it may not have the excitement some are expecting.  I was inspired to write about it.  Just click here to see more.

That’s it for now.  More to come as I journey through the land of books!.  What are you reading?

Debra Hadsall